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Lorena against a terracotta wall

Chapter 1 · 7:30 am

Getting out the door

I have nothing clean.

I did not do the laundry, and I am embarrassed.

Try There is a hoodie on the dryer. Tonight we run a load together.

Issue 43: I have nothing clean.

Five more minutes.

I am worn out, and the day has started badly.

Try I will wake you again at 7:40. Toast or cereal?

Issue 37: Five more minutes.

Hoodies and backpacks on an entryway bench
Short words at a long hour, and what is under them.

Chapter 2 · 3:30 pm

After school

I am fine.

I am not fine, and I do not know how to start.

Try Okay. I am around all evening if that changes.

Issue 46: I am fine.

Nothing.

I need some time before I can talk about it.

Try I am here when you want to tell me. Do you want a snack?

Issue 40: Nothing.

Lorena at the kitchen island with her teens
The first twenty minutes home, when they say the least.

Chapter 3 · 6:30 pm

Dinner

I am not hungry.

I ate at school, or I am upset, or I do not like this.

Try Sit with us anyway. There is food on the counter if you change your mind.

Issue 44: I am not hungry.

Why do we have to sit here?

I want to be on my phone, and I want to be treated as grown up.

Try Fifteen minutes, phones in the basket, then you can go.

Issue 38: Why do we have to sit here?

Teen cooking quesadillas with his mum
The table, the phone and the plate nobody wants to finish.

Chapter 4 · 8 pm

Homework

I will do it later.

I am avoiding something I think I will not get right.

Try What is the first small piece? Let us do that one together.

Issue 45: I will do it later.

Printed workbook and conversation cards
Putting it off, hiding it and blaming the teacher.

Chapter 5 · 10 pm

Bedtime

Never mind.

I wanted to tell you something and the moment passed.

Try Okay. I will be in the kitchen if you remember.

Issue 42: Never mind.

I cannot sleep.

My head is full, or my phone is.

Try Come and sit for five minutes. The phone stays on the counter.

Issue 36: I cannot sleep.

Quiet desert street at dusk
The hour when the real talk starts, if you stay in the room.

Chapter 6 · Saturday

The weekend

Everyone is going.

I am afraid of being left out.

Try Tell me who, where and how you are getting home, and let us see.

Issue 47: Everyone is going.

I am bored.

I miss my friends and I miss having a plan.

Try Want to come to the shop with me, or have a friend over?

Issue 41: I am bored.

Teen siblings hiking a desert trail at sunset
Plans, friends and how late is too late.

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